ومن حقها على الوالدين تعليمها حسن المعاشرة وآداب العشرة مع الزوج كما روي أن أسماء بنت خارجة الفزاري قالت لابنتها عند التزوج إنك خرجت من العش الذي فيه درجت فصرت إلى فراش لم تعرفيه وقرين لم تألفيه فكوني له أرضاً يكن لك سماء وكوني له مهاداً يكن لك عماداً وكوني له أمة يكن لك عبداً لا تلحقي به فيقلاك و لا تباعدي عنه فينساك إن دنا منك فاقربي منه وإن نأى فأبعدي عنه واحفظي أنفه وسمعه وعينه فلا يشمن منك إلا طيباً ولا يسمع إلا حسناً ولا ينظر إلا جميلاً
إحياء علوم الدين للغزالي كتاب آداب النكاح الباب الثالث في آداب المعاشرة وما يجري في دوام النكاح والنظر فيما على الزوج وفيما على الزوجة القسم الثاني النظر في حقوق الزوج عليها
Between both parents, it is a woman’s duty that she give instruction in agreeable intimate contact and proper conduct in intimacy with the husband, as has been related that Asmaa bint Kharija Al-Fazari said to her daughter when she got married: Indeed you have left the nest that you have grown in, and you have gone to a bed that you have not known before, and to a companion that you have not been accustomed to; so be to him like the earth and may he be to you as the sky; and be to him as level ground and may he be to you as a pillar; and be to him as a servant girl and may he be to you as a servant; do not cling to him that he should abhor you, nor be distant from him that he should forget you; if he approaches you, draw near to him, and if he moves away, stay far from him; and protect his nose, his hearing, and his eyes; let him not ever smell anything from you but perfume, and not hear but what is pleasant, and not see but what is beautiful.
Al-Ghazali, Ihyaa ‘Ulum Al-deen [Revival of the Religious Sciences], The book of proper conduct in marital relations, Section three: concerning proper conduct in intimacy, what should be observed for the duration of marital relations, and consideration of the obligations of the husband and the obligations of the wife, Part two: consideration of the husband’s rights over her